Starting on the first day that I went out dressed as a woman, I have followed two rules to improve my chances of surviving a gender transition. By constantly obeying these two rules, I have found that the reactions of others to my presentation is lessened considerably. I did not pass normally, but this does not seem to be an issue with most of the general public.
The first rule was given to me by other transsexuals. The rule is:
When you are out in public, present yourself as though you are comfortable and confident with who and what you are. Do not show any nervousness, lack of confidence or indication that you should not be cross-dressed. (This is the same as not letting a strange dog know that you are nervous. And after all, there are a lot of strange dogs out there!) |
The second rule came from a number of sources. The rule is:
If anyone has a problem with who you are, what
you are, or that you are cross-dressed, then they have the problem, not you. (Of course, you
must be constantly, discretely alert for the scenario where someone is
about to take action against you.) |
A quote from Dr. Seuss:
Be who you are
and say what you feel
because those who mind don’t matter
and those who matter don’t mind.
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